Dissect A Song: Donell Jones - Where I Wanna Be
a.K.a
The Selfish N*gga Theme Song
Earlier in the week, I was jammin’ in my car to throwback songs when this gem from Donell Jones came on.
Of course I got excited because I remember SWEARING by this song and video when I was in high school.
So as I was singing alone to the song, I began to pay attention to words that I was singing and I STOPPED.
What kind of selfish N*gga shit was a swearing to for all these years?????
Ladies and gentlemen, it’s time to dissect the song.
First Verse:
I said I left my baby girl a message
Sayin’ I won’t be coming home
I’d rather be alone
She doesn’t fully understand me
That I’d rather leave than to cheat
If she gives me some time
I can be the man she needs
But there’s a lot of lust inside of me
And we’ve been together since our teenage years
I really don’t mean to hurt her, but I need some time
To be alone
Hold up…..you mean to tell me you jumped into a relationship with me when your ass wasn’t ready to be the man I wanted and YOU said YOU were???? The fuck you mean you need “alone time”????? We haven’t been TOGETHER all the time since we were teenagers. When I went away to college I KNOW you were dipping. And I said NOTHING. So now you want some more time to stick your dick in other tramps and I’m just suppose to sit and wait for your greedy ass?????
Chorus:
But when you love someone
You just don’t treat them bad
Oh, how I feel so sad
Now that I wanna leave
She’s crying her heart to me
How could you let this be?
I just need time to see
Where I wanna be
Where I wanna be…
So you really going to hurt my feelings like this????
Second verse:
Never did I imagine
That you would play a major part
In a decision that’s so hard
Do I leave, do I stay, do I go?
I think about my life and what matters to me the most
Girl, the love that we share is real
But in time your heart will heal
I’m not saying I’m gone
But I have to find what life is like
Without you
So what YOU’RE telling me is that love isn’t enough? You can’t be responsible enough to keep yourself out of trouble and into the arms of the one who loves you? So while you go off to find yourself, you want me to just go about my business and live my life….BUT NOT TOO MUCH. Cause when you’re ready to come back you want things to magically fall into place like you didn’t just leave my black ass high and dry????
How fuckin’ selfish????
And then I watched the video and got even MORE upset. He’s out having the time of his life while she’s at home, ALONE. With a dry coochie. Like, chick, you were home free. Enjoying a delicious FREE meal with someone vying for your time and love and all this N*gga gotta do is come along looking like he stole a throwback Run DMC getup from Rev Run’s closet breathing all up on the damn window and you take his back.
Granted, the man she was a date with a horrid Morris Day look alike but THAT’S NOT THE POINT!
Lesson from this song:
As two adults in an ADULT relationship, you don’t get no damn breaks. Either we together or I’m going to Jamaica to get my groove back.
By: Eden H
You have suppressed some lackluster memories throughout the years to only be sitting down with your best friend when it all hits you at once and you shout out, “Oh. My. God…..WHY did I f*ck him??????”
By: Eden H
Earlier today, Ray J released the video for his single “I Hit It First”.
Lord, Jesus knows I miss a good Kanye West rant and he needs to come swift and with with a vengeance.
Kim Kardashian by far is not my favorite person in the world but she’s a woman who made some bad decisions along the way and doesn’t deserve this.
I’m not asking for a diss record from Mr. West. Just for him to stand up and be the man in Kim’s life and let this tacky and uncouth Negro know that this is the woman of his child and he will not disrespect her or him in that manner.
NO WAY in THE WORLD I could be with a man who would let someone disrespect me like this in public.
Even if there is truth to the song, Ray J needs a Joe Jackson, “You shuffled when you should’ve pivoted”, walk out and “go get me a switch”, ass beating.
These Ninjas is trippin’.
Sidebar:
Who the f*ck is Bobby Brackins??????
By: Eden H
When you’re trying to build up the esteem of young kids that are constantly being ridiculed for their appearance or personality….. you could do a little better than posting pseudo-celebrities who are scantily-clad to support a cause.
Where it’s admirable that J. Ryan La Cour (*side eye at the name*) starts a silent campaign to acknowledge bullying, the message is blurred.
How can people (specifically young kids) looking at these pictures telling them to “Be You” take away positive imagery when their probably being ridiculed for not exuding what these women have and/or look like????
By: Eden H
For the life of me.
I can not understand.
Why people will wait upwards of 15 minutes.
To sit in their car.
In the FAST FOOD DRIVE-THRU.
When there is NO ONE inside Chick-Fil-A and 5 registers free as bird with people on EACH of them ready to take your order.
Have we become that lazy as a society that you can’t get your ass out of the car, walk inside, and get your food in 5 minutes or less????
I got some breakfast this morning and it never ceases to amaze me how many lazy fucks just won’t get out of their car and walk inside to place their order so I can FINALLY use the drive-thru myself………
Is that too much to ask for????
By: Eden H
I loathe everything about this show….but most of all…..I loathe this tramp.
I don’t have to watch Love & Hip Hop to know these people. I subscribe to Hot 97 and The Breakfast Club and listen to their radio shows every morning for work.
The blogger who felt K. Michelle’s UNDESERVING wrath is one that I follow and I’m quite a fan of. What’s more, her attitude was not justified because she didn’t have her facts straight.
She went off at the mouth to someone who WORKS for a blog site, and not the culprit who actually wrote whatever hot mess (which she is) was about her.
Let me clue people in who have NO IDEA about the ABC’s of blogging.
It’s an online journal/diary/notes of personal opinions, alleged facts, thoughts, rumors, and whatever else you like to post. Some of us post to post, while others like myself work EVERY day and week to keep our audiences informed, entertained, and occupied.
Hate us or love us, BLOGS, not your record labels or your entourage behind you, but BLOGS are what keep your meely mouth rusty dusty ass relevant.
Me with this rant, keeps your country hood bamma ass relevant.
To tell someone, TO KILL THEMSELVES, then to go on to talk about his coif (which has NO relevance to your rant whatsoever) makes you look like the temperamental, ignorant, crass, jungle bunny that you are.
And that other chick…..whatever her name is, who thinks she doesn’t have any responsibility to the public for her actions and consequences.
The minute you sign on the dotted line to make your “private life” public, you have also agreed to be a representation of the community and culture of which you are apart of. You contribute to the stereotypes and asinine beliefs that Black women and black people do all the ignorant shit that YOU DO on the show.
Yes.
Because you signed your soul over to the High Priestess of Hell which is Mona Scott Young.
These heifers need to remember, it’s public and these blogs that keep them afloat….we can giveth and we can taketh away. I just wish these children would take them away…..far, far, away sooner.
Y’all really taking this Jiggaboo seriously???? And YES, that term fits HER perfectly……….
By: Eden H
By now, the hub bub should have died down, but unless you’ve been living underneath a rock (or just as lazy as I was), then let me give you a quick little rundown.
Little hip hop orphan, A$AP Rocky, was asked about women and beauty routines (WHY, I don’t know) and he proceeded to give his opinion:
“But for real, for me, I feel like with the red lipstick thing it all depends on the pair of complexion. I’m just being for real. You have to be fair skinned to get away with that.”
IMMEDIATELY after I finished reading the countless articles plastered around EVERY black blog you could think of, a wave of black women, young and old, began to be just as redundant as the Martin commercials that come on TV One every. single. day.
